We are in a long distance relationship. He is from California and I’m here in Philippines. He visited me twice and the last visit is this january 2017 but we broke up. Falling in love with him is the best feeling i ever had to any guy i met not even in my ex before. Its just way too different. Despite of our differences in life we had a strong connection with each other and he even said that to me. But our situation is complicated. He still goes to school and he want to save to buy a house and at the same time he decided to travel other country while he is still young which i support him on that. But he won’t be able to see me for couple of years since he need to save up and he said he is not sure in how will he goin to feel for the next couple of years without seeing me. Plus we are different races im a filipina and he is american. And he sometimes talk so fast which my face is (o.O) like this always. I understand him but sometimes not. I dont have a problem to him but he has a problem to me but deapite of that he still loves me. I cried so much when we broke up and told i will let you go. He cries too and i habent seen a man cried before. And he told me how he appreciate me and how he likes me and how i change him to things he is not before. We both cried together. Letting go of him was a hard decision since i cant imagine that i wont be his girl to be with. I love him so much. We broke up but we were good that night.

But one time he went home late and find out he went to the bar and met some girls who grab him and want him since he is tall, handsome and foreigner too. At that night he never know that i know he is with some girls since i found in his fb friends that she has a filipina friend cause i know he dont have in his friendlist except me. I was crying in that night while he is not yet home. I slept in the couch outside in the hotel waiting for him. Then he arrive by his car, thats 3 am where bar closes here. I pretend i was sleeping in the couch. Then he pass me and i was very mad at him but i still pretended i was sleeping. I heared his step again and feel his breath then he carried me and it was good haha but im still mad at him. I even smelled that he really drink alcohol. I wanna slap him that moment but i still keep my body sleeping. He lay me down in our bed and he kiss my lips. The he goes to shower and i wonder about it why. Then after that he lay down with me and open the tv. He then hug me and kiss me in my back which makes me turn on to him but i still pretend sleep. He keeps hugging me, he is too close to me where i can feel all of him and wanting him too. So i turned around to him and kiss him back and we almost making love at that point where he is so attach to my body and hot. he really want me that moment but he ask if im still on my period and i say yes haha and he was sad cause he want me so bad. I was sad too. I was mad at him but i pretended that everything is okay. Then i start to ask him nicely and friendly what he do. And he tells me stories and he didnt told me about that girl who become his friend in fb on that night aswell. I didnt ask but was extremely mad at him. In the morning i told him i will go to my friends for a swimming. He dont want to come since its not his type of fun. He gave me a big money but i didnt take it when he knows i dont have any. I took his coins instead and he ask for a kiss before i leave. I kissed him. Then i go.

Night comes and i ask him to pick me up cause i was so drunk and my friend told him too. He arrive and i was so happy but when i saw him i got mad at him and i started to cry and blame him and hate him in front of my friends. My friends were crying cause of how i cried. I told him all of my pain and hurt while i was crying even told him some bad things. I was out of myself and i cant control it no more since i was so drunk. Then i found myself inside the car. Then he carried me out of the car in his shoulder. He ask the receptionist to watch me for him and i scared the receptionist that i saw a ghost. I was soo silly and crazy that time. Then he ordered me some food and wanting me to eat so i eat. And then i sleep and woke up at 2 am and i cried. Then he woke up and ask me why im crying. I remember what i told to him while i was drunk. And i say sorry to him and he said its fine and he understand how hurt i was that everything i said is true and he believe all of it. It hurts him but he accept it.
I ask him about thats girl and he told me that he met it in the bar and not only the girl but they are group of friends who asking him to be with their table. They keep asking him who he was, where he came from and they ask for his fb and he gave it so they become friends in fb that night. And he said nothing had happened or bad happened. Which i believe since he kiss me that night and how he want me that night too. He is also has very big respect to me. He cant even touch me without my permission if i want to. But he lied cause he dont want to hurt me which i was really mad about. I told him thag he didnt think how ill be hurt how he doesnt care about my feelings. But on that morning we all good. Then in next couple of days he went home in US. He was still sweet to me like we still couple. He calls me and says sweet words to me giving me time and attention. But i got crazy again and nag him over and over cause i was jealous about the girl he met. He told me he dont like the girl though he found her attractive but doesnt mean he like her . Thats what he told me. He explained everything again then i told him to stop his lie and no more lies. He said okay but i was too crazy still and i always nag at him but he just keep ignoring me so i made to the point i told him hurt words and thati told him i hate him so much. Then he ignore me again and didnt txt me . So i nag again and complain. He told me he is done that he dont want anymore cause i always hating him. Then we didnt txt for 2 days i guess or 1 day which im not use to it. So i text him saying sorry that i didnt mean to hurt him by what i say that i was just too mad and full of anger and insecurities. Then he told me like we are over. That he dont love me no more that the sweetness of him faded.

I pleased him, beg him, i did everything and now we are still chatting but friends only. Last valentines he didnt told me he loves me so i cried. It hurt me and it breaks my world apart. Then i text him sweet messages that i realize what i did, i told him how important he was for me and says sorry for what i did. Then i send him our happy funny videos and he laugh and start talking to me. Then days after he easily got hotheaded and blame me that he lock his key in inside his car and it was my faulth cause he called me and i talk to him and even told me that he dont have time talking and socializing and he is so mad.

I got scared of him. Still i said sorry. Then after the moment he told me sorry too that he blame me on his own fault. He told me sweet amazing text after that. Then i accept him and told im i will still try to undertstand but thats to let him know too there is a limit. So we are back again but as partner. I told him ilove him but he dont responds no more like how he always does. And im not use to it and i really feel again that he dont likes me no more. But he still keeo texting me too but not as how we was before. Now im confuse what to do. Im he dont appreciate me no more then i have to go and keave and wont be txting him no more cause it only hurts me to know he dot like me that i feellike im just forcing him to like me. But i love him so much, i dont hate him, i need him, i want him , he is my type of a guy, i even though that he is my prince. Like i feel like he really is my soul mate that im longing since before. He is everything i want to be with in my life. And now i dont know if i can get him back or should i leave him forever since i feel like he is not too sweet to me now. Help me please. I need someone to suggest to me something. Help me please

We are in a long distance relationship. He is from California and I’m here in Philippines. He visited me twice and the last visit is this january 2017 but we broke up. Falling in love with him is the best feeling i ever had to any guy i met not even in my ex before. Its just way too different. Despite of our differences in life we had a strong connection with each other and he even said that to me. But our situation is complicated. He still goes to school and he want to save to buy a house and at the same time he decided to travel other country while he is still young which i support him on that. But he won’t be able to see me for couple of years since he need to save up and he said he is not sure in how will he goin to feel for the next couple of years without seeing me. Plus we are different races im a filipina and he is american. And he sometimes talk so fast which my face is (o.O) like this always. I understand him but sometimes not. I dont have a problem to him but he has a problem to me but deapite of that he still loves me. I cried so much when we broke up and told i will let you go. He cries too and i habent seen a man cried before. And he told me how he appreciate me and how he likes me and how i change him to things he is not before. We both cried together. Letting go of him was a hard decision since i cant imagine that i wont be his girl to be with. I love him so much. We broke up but we were good that night.

But one time he went home late and find out he went to the bar and met some girls who grab him and want him since he is tall, handsome and foreigner too. At that night he never know that i know he is with some girls since i found in his fb friends that she has a filipina friend cause i know he dont have in his friendlist except me. I was crying in that night while he is not yet home. I slept in the couch outside in the hotel waiting for him. Then he arrive by his car, thats 3 am where bar closes here. I pretend i was sleeping in the couch. Then he pass me and i was very mad at him but i still pretended i was sleeping. I heared his step again and feel his breath then he carried me and it was good haha but im still mad at him. I even smelled that he really drink alcohol. I wanna slap him that moment but i still keep my body sleeping. He lay me down in our bed and he kiss my lips. The he goes to shower and i wonder about it why. Then after that he lay down with me and open the tv. He then hug me and kiss me in my back which makes me turn on to him but i still pretend sleep. He keeps hugging me, he is too close to me where i can feel all of him and wanting him too. So i turned around to him and kiss him back and we almost making love at that point where he is so attach to my body and hot. he really want me that moment but he ask if im still on my period and i say yes haha and he was sad cause he want me so bad. I was sad too. I was mad at him but i pretended that everything is okay. Then i start to ask him nicely and friendly what he do. And he tells me stories and he didnt told me about that girl who become his friend in fb on that night aswell. I didnt ask but was extremely mad at him. In the morning i told him i will go to my friends for a swimming. He dont want to come since its not his type of fun. He gave me a big money but i didnt take it when he knows i dont have any. I took his coins instead and he ask for a kiss before i leave. I kissed him. Then i go.

Night comes and i ask him to pick me up cause i was so drunk and my friend told him too. He arrive and i was so happy but when i saw him i got mad at him and i started to cry and blame him and hate him in front of my friends. My friends were crying cause of how i cried. I told him all of my pain and hurt while i was crying even told him some bad things. I was out of myself and i cant control it no more since i was so drunk. Then i found myself inside the car. Then he carried me out of the car in his shoulder. He ask the receptionist to watch me for him and i scared the receptionist that i saw a ghost. I was soo silly and crazy that time. Then he ordered me some food and wanting me to eat so i eat. And then i sleep and woke up at 2 am and i cried. Then he woke up and ask me why im crying. I remember what i told to him while i was drunk. And i say sorry to him and he said its fine and he understand how hurt i was that everything i said is true and he believe all of it. It hurts him but he accept it.
I ask him about thats girl and he told me that he met it in the bar and not only the girl but they are group of friends who asking him to be with their table. They keep asking him who he was, where he came from and they ask for his fb and he gave it so they become friends in fb that night. And he said nothing had happened or bad happened. Which i believe since he kiss me that night and how he want me that night too. He is also has very big respect to me. He cant even touch me without my permission if i want to. But he lied cause he dont want to hurt me which i was really mad about. I told him thag he didnt think how ill be hurt how he doesnt care about my feelings. But on that morning we all good. Then in next couple of days he went home in US. He was still sweet to me like we still couple. He calls me and says sweet words to me giving me time and attention. But i got crazy again and nag him over and over cause i was jealous about the girl he met. He told me he dont like the girl though he found her attractive but doesnt mean he like her . Thats what he told me. He explained everything again then i told him to stop his lie and no more lies. He said okay but i was too crazy still and i always nag at him but he just keep ignoring me so i made to the point i told him hurt words and thati told him i hate him so much. Then he ignore me again and didnt txt me . So i nag again and complain. He told me he is done that he dont want anymore cause i always hating him. Then we didnt txt for 2 days i guess or 1 day which im not use to it. So i text him saying sorry that i didnt mean to hurt him by what i say that i was just too mad and full of anger and insecurities. Then he told me like we are over. That he dont love me no more that the sweetness of him faded.

I pleased him, beg him, i did everything and now we are still chatting but friends only. Last valentines he didnt told me he loves me so i cried. It hurt me and it breaks my world apart. Then i text him sweet messages that i realize what i did, i told him how important he was for me and says sorry for what i did. Then i send him our happy funny videos and he laugh and start talking to me. Then days after he easily got hotheaded and blame me that he lock his key in inside his car and it was my faulth cause he called me and i talk to him and even told me that he dont have time talking and socializing and he is so mad.

I got scared of him. Still i said sorry. Then after the moment he told me sorry too that he blame me on his own fault. He told me sweet amazing text after that. Then i accept him and told im i will still try to undertstand but thats to let him know too there is a limit. So we are back again but as partner. I told him ilove him but he dont responds no more like how he always does. And im not use to it and i really feel again that he dont likes me no more. But he still keeo texting me too but not as how we was before. Now im confuse what to do. Im he dont appreciate me no more then i have to go and keave and wont be txting him no more cause it only hurts me to know he dot like me that i feellike im just forcing him to like me. But i love him so much, i dont hate him, i need him, i want him , he is my type of a guy, i even though that he is my prince. Like i feel like he really is my soul mate that im longing since before. He is everything i want to be with in my life. And now i dont know if i can get him back or should i leave him forever since i feel like he is not too sweet to me now. Help me please. I need someone to suggest to me something. Help me please

I am an Aries woman completely enamored with a Taurus man. I have to agree with the one user who said the majority of these comments are depressing… But that user followed it up with a key statement that hits the nail on the head, compatibility grows over time. We really are two different signs having one major trait in common, stubbornness. That alone means, it’s NOT easy, you are going to have to try and understand the Taurus for what he is and adapt or you will lose him. Now does it seem fair that YOU have to adapt? Of course not, but its certainly easier that way, just trust me on this one. Another key thing to remember is that they ARE sensible, and while you may be “changing” your ways to meet their needs, it’s really only so they can see things in a different light. Once you figure out how to get your point across without overreacting, you will be listened to, and you WILL be taken care of!

We were friends for three years before we started dating. He’s stunningly attractive and we always had the most AMAZING chemistry, but I was in a long-term relationship at the time, so we just started to build a solid friendship without the pressure of is he/she into me? I always had a thing for him in the back of my mind, but I never gave it too much thought, he was a player, after all. Looking back, I know the reputation he had was due to the overly-charming nature of the Taurus, he was easily a lady-killer and he never committed. Now I realize that once a Taurus decides to commit, the flirting is only for you and they completely expect the same in return, even that harmless conversation you’re having with the bar stranger WILL be misinterpreted. They need to feel secure. As an Aries, that can be hard to deal with, were the centers of attention and we rule our own worlds.

Anyway, having thought about him for years as the unattainable eye-candy, I just never expected to find myself in a relationship with him, even after my man and I had split. Without that pressure there, though, I was able to get to know the amazingly selfless, genuine individual that he is. Even though we didn’t hang out all too often, I knew he was someone I wanted to keep in my life forever… Someone that would always be there when you needed him. After a night of drinking and flirting, we finally hooked up. It was phenomenal. The next morning, he woke up wanting to cuddle and I ran out of there as fast as I could trying to not let him know the way I really felt about him, keeping a tough outer shell to protect myself from what I thought was his player nature. I knew I would fall and fall hard, so I just kept telling myself that it meant nothing, just a pure night of passion. Well, a few months went by and we’d see each other here and there, pulling each other under stai rwells and into coat closets to share a quick, passionate kiss (with our dates for the night in the other room). I routinely supported him at one of his local dj gigs and wed always be the two closing down the bar talking and laughing over cocktails. I still continued to tell myself (even though it was really hard to listen) that it meant nothing. We stopped running into each other as frequently and I didn’t hear from him for a while I eventually got word that he was in love and knowing he’s not the man to settle down right away, my heart broke a little, I knew it was something serious. Obviously I told myself the whole time we were just friends, so I respected his new relationship and decided I wasn’t going to make any moves when we occasionally did run into each other. As nice as it was to see him, it killed me on the inside to not be able to act how I always had with him, and I later found out that he avoided me because he didn’t trust himself around me and wanted to give his girl his all (sweet, I know, but for an Aries that’s not getting what she wants, it was bitter, bittersweet).

For that reason, I was incredibly surprised to see him show up at my doorstep at my Halloween party. A smile instantly took over both of our faces. He said he just wanted to say hi because he missed hanging out. I had been drinking so I wanted to jump all over him the second I laid eyes on him, but instead, I just playfully teased him about how he had dropped off the face of the earth thanks to his new girl. He told me things weren’t going too well, and she left to work out of state leaving him unsure of whether or not they were together yet just a few weeks before that, she was telling him she wanted to marry him and have his children. At that point, I lost all respect for her; shed lied to him about being pregnant among other terrible things. My party wasn’t exactly the best place to be catching up on lost time, so I got us off the topic by jokingly saying ?well, that’s settled, were eloping to Vegas! He didn’t stay for very long, but during the time he was there we were inseparable. I walked him out to his truck and made a move. He accepted and then quickly changed his mind I don’t know what’s going on right now and I don’t want to regret this later on. Please don’t get me wrong, I WANT to, you’re gorgeous, he said. Even thinking about it now that moment sent shivers down my spine. The chemistry was THERE yet I found him all that much more attractive when he was able to control himself and be respectful to her, even though we both knew it was over

The next few weeks were particularly hard. We hung out all the time and did nothing but support each other through the tough times. It was a bit strange, he was pining over his ex and I was finally dealing with the loss of mine (after pretending for a year that I wasn’t bothered by it), yet here we were just holding each other in silence, watching movies and falling asleep on the couch together. It eventually got to the point where we were spending every day with each other. Finally, one night everything just changed and we found ourselves in another passionate exchange. I joked about it taking so long and he just kept saying he was sorry, he wanted to wait because he didn’t want to lead me on while he was still thinking about someone else We agreed neither one of us wanted anything serious and we were just having fun. But then the holidays rolled around and he came home to my parents house on Christmas morning and I went to his family party that evening. The next week I wa s invited to his nephews christening, me and a whopping 15 other people (including family), so I started to think a little more about what was going on, obviously there was something more there.

This is where I started making one terrible mistake after the next. To the point where Im actually surprised were still together (especially after reading more about the nature of the Taurus). I overanalyzed everything. I knew I was head over heels for him when I first laid eyes on him years ago; it was silly to all parties involved for me to pretend that I wasn’t For me (even though I had yet to admit it), it was simple; I wanted him, all to myself. I had serious trust issues thanks to past relationships. I knew he was a flirt, and I still hadn’t completely shaken that player idea in my head. I wanted commitment. I wanted to know he was mine (even though I knew damn well he wasn’t anyone else’s). I pushed and pressured him so hard, that again, I cannot believe were together today. I played silly hard to get games and did things just to get a rise out of him because, I mean, why did it matter? I wasn’t his girlfriend, right? I even kissed another guy on New Years Ev e just to prove to him that if he didn’t want to claim me, there were a ton of other guys that would. I made rude comments about the fact that he didn’t want me to be his girlfriend so his options could always be left open. I made sure I had control over the situation when we were out in public all things Taurus DESPISE!

I thought I was playing smart, I thought I had mastered the game Little did I know every single time I did something I was pushing him farther and farther away. He doubted I was even still the same girl he started to fall for and I must admit I was going so INSANE over my insecurities; I no longer WAS the same girl. I had created the insecurities for him that I was trying so desperately to alleviate for myself! After I told him about the NYE incident (I couldn’t take the guilt for more than a day), we got into a HUGE fight, I broke down crying, exposing every insecurity I had, where my heart really was, and why I thought the stupid games would work. I told him I loved him, much to my surprise he immediately said he loved me too, that I actually didn’t hold a candle to his ex and that terrified him considering how head finally let someone in and she shattered his heart so quickly, now he was looking at how I was acting with other guys and couldn’t help but think he was making another bad decision. I just don’t know how I can commit to someone who’s all over other men like you are. I spent all day with you and you kiss someone else when I turn my back to prove a point? My flirtatious, hard-to-get ways turned around and bit me directly in the ass. I tried to see the situation for what it was, I was really hard on myself for doing all those things to try and make him jealous I felt like a complete ass.

Not too long after that, he asked me to be his girlfriend. I was thrilled, but again, made a lot of bad decisions. He wanted to take things slow and I was constantly fishing for security. I took offense when he didn’t want to plan too far into the future (not the marriage and kids talk or anything, but even summer vacation talks were too much pressure for him). I still flirted because I had considered it harmless and thought he would want to be the same way. I though it was good for both of us to know we had SEXY significant others that still had it. We both were flirts by nature before we met, so that shouldn’t change, right? I still continued to play games, not answering his calls, making him wonder where I was (when really I was just sitting home overanalyzing everything). This was my dream man – I had to figure out how to keep him! I still didn’t fully get everything that had happened between us and I was used to men showering me with affection and compliments, he d dint do that and I couldn’t understand why.

I realize now, 8 months after he asked me to be with him, that if I had just taken a chill pill from the get-go things would probably have progressed faster and in a more serious manner. I pushed him into committing when he really wasn’t ready and I hadn’t really proven my loyalty to him. Now we finally understand each other, but its taken a LOT of fights and exhausting discussions to get where we are. At first, I always had an answer for everything, I immediately took defense to any constructive criticism head give (and they give a LOT of it, but its only because they care and want what’s best for you). I would bring the horns of the ram to every fight and end up in a deadlock with the horns of the bull. Bulls are the stronger beings, in many ways more than just the stubbornness, though. He usually was right, because he, as a Taurus, was thinking sensibly; I, as an Aries, typically lived by the moment and on pure emotion? We hated each other at times. But we needed each other. One day, I finally decided to start backing down. He wasn’t used to it and even though I wasn’t resisting him anymore, he was so ready for a fight that head already brought that Taurus temper to the table, so I had to deal with a lot of harsh behavior from him while he settled into the calmer me and realized I no longer needed to be the enemy (they won’t ever let their harshness go for long without an apology and sincere regret). I listened to every word he said and took it for what it was. I changed my flirtatious behavior because even though I didn’t get why it was wrong if I wasn’t crossing any lines, I knew he wasn’t going to see my reasoning and I needed to make him feel secure, or I was going to lose him. He spelled it all out plain and simply for me, I was just so busy being defensive that I never listened. It took a lot for me to finally concede. I guess I just realized that, I, from the start, I hadn’t had the right approach; it was time to change. Time to give control back to the Taurus man that so desperately needs it rather than fighting so relentlessly for it. I know, an Aries letting go of their control over their worlds is a hard thing to do, but you have to realize that once you do (and once he realizes you have), he will become more understanding (and therefore less bull-headed!) because there’s no longer a need for their defense mechanism. He will be nothing but supportive and kind to you. Once this occurs, you realize you didn’t lose your control, you just are finally sharing it with a Taurus that is finally willing to listen.

Again, its taken a lot to get to this point of mutual understanding and I cant wait to watch all the glorious characteristics of the SECURE Taurus continue to unfold. All the fairy tail things you read about them ARE true. They love to shower you with gifts, they’re amazing shopping side-kicks, they can fix anything and everything and they do it for you without even asking because they’re constantly looking out for your best interest, they always have your back. Once they realize you’re not out to get them, that is.

Just need a Good psychatrist ….as i will be with this man ….my whole life ….