While I don*t have a definite answer as to what are the lessons to learn for you, I*ve found it useful for the “flipped” situations to think of the planets as the energy that the actors (the planets) use or are influenced by in this particular house, allowing for a broader scope of the term family which could be a group you belong to or identify with, anything from a group of friends of yours, for whom you provide a home (not necessarily in the physical sense), to a community or even the family of mankind (which would fit the aquarian time we are just entering).
Some in this thread have suggested mastering the art of forgiveness could be a task for NN 4th – with mastery a rather Capricorn issue…..

1000 % affirm your points about parents as children. My placement is NN 4th in Scorpio. Parents have each been devastating and disruptive across the whole of my life, from before their divorce at the age of 2 years until present day, these people have been adolescent victims and abusers. Purely as a matter of personal protection and healing I was compelled to cut ties with each of them, independent of each other, during the past 10 years.

I have been around astrology for many years since a child (one of the few yet monumental gifts given by my mother…) and the moon’s nodes perplex even astute astrologers. Your post further validates my experiences in this life. Thank you

Some similarities here, I failed at any attempt to get social recognition, despite being the gifted kid at school. Although admired (or hated) by other teens, I never felt good at school. Then I had my 1st failure when (not) graduating university. Spend a few months (year ?) in squatts, which was maybe not a good idea, as I wasn’t even in good company…
I could never find a girl friend who was to my real liking, and when I went with those who were open to me, it always turned into short stories. Except for one but she was a cheater, I even got krabs – Libra SN, here.
No regular job, went back to care for my mother when she became old – which sounds quite good for 4th house NN, but no way I could have a family or a house of my own. With the 10th house rejecting me so bad I could not afford to feed kids or pay a mortgage. Which paints quite a lose-lose picture, but this is apparently the karma described by these articles, be happy what you have, and enjoy whatever emotions come, be it after a good meal or the frustration to be a ‘loser’ in the eyes of most ?
Sounds quite weird for a meaning of life.
Makes me think of this Black prisoner freed in 2020 in the US after 40 years in jail, turns out he was innocent. Someone asked him what he felt about this, he replied that he was not angry, and had enough time to experience emotions that other people can not even imagine… apparently that was good enough to fill a life, for him.
But without any status, most people do not respect you, they think it’s your personal choice, pure lazyness, and you won’t get away with some obscure story about a ‘4th house’, when you don’t even have your own family ?

Spirit on, my friends. I send genuine love light your way. As you walk this life and this astoundingly amazing time of transformation, I hope you find it well received. I wish you vitality and fortunate blessings as you path forward in to the Aquarian age, the age we may find solace, Be well, be free, and my you find your greatest joy.