First of all, let?s get something straight right here and now. Mentally and emotionally healthy and well-adjusted Taurus men are no more ?possessive? or ?jealous? than any other sign -UNLESS WE ARE GIVEN A REASON TO BE.

(Note that in the above statement, I am not including people whose psychic/mental/emotional state is damaged as a result of a dysfunctional past ? because although a Taurus? potential for possessiveness may intensify the effects of such damage, it?s by no means exclusive to any particular sign.)

The most jealous, possessive, insanely insecure woman I have ever dated was an Aries. That two-year period of my life was the most strangling, choking, suffocating relationship I have EVER been in – and I?ve dated two Taurus women who came nowhere NEAR her level of jealousy (when they were even remotely jealous at all)? but I digress.

I particularly like reading comments from Sagittarius women who say ?I can?t help it if I?m flirtatious,? or things like that.

Uh?YES YOU CAN. That?s a personal choice. It?s called taking responsibility for your own actions. Just because you don?t INTEND anything by it doesn?t make it right. And another thing ? you?d be well advised to take a hard look at what YOU consider harmless flirting, and what your significant OTHER considers ?harmless? flirting. Because although you both might actually do it at some point or another, there ARE limits to what is acceptable; and those limits are (or should be) pretty much standard across the spectrum of healthy relationships. And if you find you constantly need to flirt with other men, then you don?t need a boyfriend ? you need a therapist.

A Taurus man ? one who we?ll assume is fairly well-adjusted ? will make you the Number One Person in his life, make no mistake about it. In his eyes, the sun will rise and set on your face. You are THE most important woman in his life (let?s exclude dear old mom for now), in every way shape or form. And we will SHOW that, in everything we do. We will show that to you.

And the only thing we want is*the*same*thing*in*return. Period. I mean, seriously – it?s not rocket science, people.

For starters ? let?s talk about the folks who complain because their Taurus boyfriend likes to know where they are and/or what they?re doing. Are you kidding me? News flash, folks: that isn?t possessiveness, that?s called basic respect, consideration, and decency. That?s where the ?commitment? comes in, in a relationship. If you?re going to TELL someone that you are committed to them, you?d better walk the walk, and not just talk the talk. Otherwise, it?s just platitudes, gibberish, and empty words. Don?t like the idea of your boyfriend or fiancé or husband knowing where you are or who you?re with? Then don?t even bother being in a relationship, because you ain?t got what it takes. You don?t. I?m telling you right now. Want to be able to spend time with other members of the opposite sex in ways that go above and beyond a normal platonic friendship? Again, you better think – and re-think – whether you?re cut out for a real relationship. Especially if you?re considering gettin g married. Go look up Webster?s definitions of devotion, loyalty, fidelity, and commitment and get back to me.

Perhaps those people ? these ?carefree,? ?fun-loving? folks who want their ?freedom? should ask themselves exactly what that word means when they say it.

?Freedom? to do what, exactly?

Go to the park and relax somewhere by yourself? That?s fine, and you should be able to do that. Go to the mall by yourself shopping? That?s also ok, and you should be able to do that. Go to a club with your friends? That?s also fine, and you should be able to do that too. You need to have things that are your own; to have a healthy relationship with one?s own self is paramount to one?s happiness. Only a psycho would try to stop you from doing those things, no matter WHAT ?sign? he was born under. Don?t use his Taurean nature as an explanation – that?s a load of crap, it?s an excuse, and it?s a stupid excuse at that. Blaming one?s behavior on one?s zodiac sign effectively relieves a person of TAKING RESPONSIBILITY for their own behavior.

However?

You want to go away for a weekend with a female friend somewhere, without your boyfriend or husband? That?s fine, you should be able to do that.

Going away with a GUY who isn?t your boyfriend or husband? Not fine. Sorry to break it to you. I don?t know what world you think you?re living in, but it?s not the real one.

If that?s the kind of ?Freedom? you want, then do yourself a favor and kindly remove yourself from the ranks of those who say they are looking for a ?committed relationship,? because chances are you have no idea what you are talking about.

And this brings us back to what I wrote in the beginning of this post. There are certain things ? certain thoughts, actions, words, behaviors ? that in a healthy, committed, monogamous relationship, are meant for your significant other and THEM ALONE. Only someone with a seriously distorted conception of society and human relationships could possibly a problem with this. And here is the rub: If you are in a relationship with a Taurus, and you decide to betray their trust, or even TOY with it ? then you damn well better expect the nasty reaction that such behavior warrants. Do you WANT to flirt with other guys? I don?t mean here and there once in a blue moon; it usually happens without people even realizing they?re doing it, and nothing comes of it. But when it goes even one TINY step beyond that, you?re one step closer to utterly and completely betraying the person who has committed themselves to you.

And you know damn well you?re doing it when you do it. Don?t say you don?t know. You?d have to be blind, deaf, and dumb not to know when you?re doing it.

And if by some bizarre chance you don?t know, then ask yourself how you?d like to see your Taurus boyfriend or girlfriend holding hands as they walk with another person, or being hugged by another person longer than a few seconds (children and relatives don?t count, don?t be ridiculous), or spending a quiet candlelit dinner alone with that person, or hanging on them all night at a bar, or flirting with them over the internet, or spending long evenings lying in bed talking quietly and intimately with them on the phone. Go ahead, envision it, and then see how that vision makes you feel.

Go ahead, do it. I?ll wait.

Doesn?t bother you? Then you?ve got problems. Don?t even pretend otherwise. You have no business being with your boyfriend or girlfriend or spouse if such a vision doesn?t bother you even the slightest bit. Again – go find yourself a therapist.

In my life I will say this: except for some ridiculously irrational behavior which ended once I got out of my teens, whatever possessive and/or jealous behavior I ever displayed towards my girlfriends in the past (and it did NOT happen with all or even most of them, thank you very much) turned out, in the end, to have been completely, utterly, one-hundred-percent justified. Yes, they were lying to me. Yes, they were cheating on me. Yes, they were hiding things from me. And yes, they were falling out of love with me.

You wanna know why such behavior sets off our alarms? Because the only people who hide things are PEOPLE WHO FEEL THEY HAVE SOMETHING TO HIDE.

No, people are not possessions. And they should not be treated as such by anyone, regardless of their horoscope. But if I give you my heart, my trust, my devotion, my commitment and my loyalty, then I have given you a gift, something that is of great value to me; and if you accept that gift, you now have a responsibility: that you will not abuse it, neglect it, disregard it, or put it away in the bottom drawer at times when it?s not ?convenient? to haul it around.

This is not someone?s car, or socket wrench, or winter coat that you?re borrowing. This is a human being?s mind and feelings.

This business of Taurus men not showing their feelings, or communicating? What? Are you serious? I?ve been told that I communicate TOO MUCH. I have absolutely no problem talking about my emotions, or my significant other?s emotions for that matter. I?ve been called a ?wordsmith? because I am willing to talk so much about things? not superficial, silly things (well not all the time), but the deep, meaningful things in life and in relationships in particular.

There is no love, NO love, like the love that you will receive from a Taurus. None. And it?s NOT just sexual, either. Anyone who has ever been in a healthy relationship with one knows what I am talking about (unless you didn?t recognize it when you had it… and that is entirely possible). If the only relationships you?ve had with Taureans have been dysfunctional ones ? or ones with people who were the worst examples of the sign ? then you have no idea what I?m talking about. And that?s not your fault, of course, but there it is.

Oh, and the comments about Taureans being ?dramatic?? Pfft. We act as we feel. And believe you me – we FEEL. Oh, do we feel. You WISH you could feel emotion ? any emotion – as deeply and powerfully and intensely and overwhelmingly as we do. You WISH. Again, I am not talking about sex. I am talking about the heart. You WISH you could fall as deeply and profoundly and soul-crushingly in love as we do. It is like the most powerful of drugs, it is like the air you need to breathe. To love another person the way we do is truly to see the face of God. And just as it is our biggest strength, so it is often our biggest curse, because others often simply cannot fathom or understand the depths of such strong feelings.

Of course, in the end, that’s their loss.

Incidentally ? what is this nonsense about us being ?dramatic? anyway? Let me get this straight: When we downplay our emotions, we?re not expressing enough. When we give our emotions full reign, we?re being dramatic. Which is it? Make up your mind already.

And finally – for those of you who just can?t ?handle? such intense commitment and responsibility to someone like us?

I?ve got news for you: you don?t DESERVE us.