Check out your true sidereal chart using the actual placements if the planets in our sky and you might find that your north node isn’t actually in the 11th house.

I love this your comment is very insightful. I’m a sag nn in the 11th house. Curious if you think this is easier for men or women. I’m breaking through society’s rules and expectations for the traditional life. I am a cook but in general like to help people any way I can but now I’m practicing healthy boundaries. I liked your comment

Interesting my NN is 0″13 of aries 11th house.

The contradictions are illusory. I have the NN-11/SN-5 axis – and understand that is this polarity. It is two ends of the same stick.
It is what you already have to work with (5) and what you can achieve with it (11).
My dream of entering greater society with my lovers, my children, my family, my friends – all in happy harmony, treating each other as extended family. This is a philosophical approach that is Sagittarean, as people come and go from our lives, or enter our lives as ex-husbands remarry – are we no longer a clan or have we expanded our membership taking a more inclusive approach, accepting and supporting each other as best we can? My 5th is Gemini – flexibility, I can play the role of friend or lover as is required of the situation, way more easily than perhaps others can do. Yet like someone else who commented Saturn is there, reminding me that boundaries must be respected, and roles and positions must be defined and honored – for the greater good.
When we have Leo/Aquarius – I get these signs without trying because it is what I am. Leo is authority, respect is no an option here. My DC must be someone I can respect and never hold in contempt. Leo in the 11th is about choosing to surround yourself with people who share the aim of building honor and respect of all the humanity, each carrying themselves with confidence and courage and above all else: loyalty. Aquarius is what you already to contribute to that greater group. It is intellectual genius, amazing new ideas, taking reason and logic to its conclusion and finding an amazing surprising innovative solution. Nothing gives you more joy, unleashed through playing games like chess or doing a fun science project together. It scares people when they can’t predict the outcome, but loyalty and strength is built through those Aquarian processes.
My rising sign is Aquarius – it’s not just how I think, it’s how my body physically operates. And Leo has to be ready for this 🙂 – because my brain will challenge his brawn. That’s really how this gets translated in the 1/7th.
But Nodes in the 11th tell us the path to how we can build the outcomes together with others. We get so disappointed over and over again, as what we hope to accomplish with all our relationship work, or with other people, doesn’t turn out as we’d dreamed. Somewhere along the way, life throws something very challenging at us. Aquarius is the waterbearer, who wants to swim or wash in a dirty pool of water – we need FRESH ideas, new sources of nourishment. I hope this helps.

you are so immature, be thankful for” that cheap car”…..just suggestion…

Exactly ! And that’s my life since decades…. minus the helpful friends, minus any success in social causes and associations, that only brought me legal troubles… oh ! and an arson 2 years ago, 20K euros I don’t have to repair !
Turning lovers into friends ? That sounds so great… so that we can discuss the latest exploits they just had with their new partner ?
Wealth through women in your life, usually mother… again, sounds something to be sooo proud of… Sorry, but that 12 yo cheap car doesn’t look like “wealth” to me…
– So, what’s up, bro ?
– “I meditate… daydream… enjoy life as it happens… and I resist the temptation to bring things about through my own energy.”
– Wow ! You sound like a real los… errr… I mean… it was great tot talk with you… sorry, but I’m in a hurry !”