After the initial attraction, because he is so masculine and she is so feminine, they’re pretty much destined to drive each other crazy. Gemini is too busy being busy to provide the security that Cancers craves, and furthermore, he interprets her needs as evidence she’s “clingy” and “whiny.” If she happens to be secure enough to use her sense of humor aggressively like Gilda Ratner, she might be able to hold her own, but a Gemini man and a Cancer woman is not a recommended match.
How to Attract a Cancer Woman as a Gemini Man:
Cancer women are interested in security and whatever that means to them personally. She may equate security with your constant companionship or a promise to buy her a home in the future. She may equate it with how much money you make, or that you stay in constant touch with her via text. As you can see, this is guaranteed to drive you absolutely batty. No Gemini in the world wants that close a tab kept, but if you are smitten with this lovely moon creature, you will have to find ways to reassure her of your constant affection. Most women you can conquer with the blarney stone, but the Cancer lady wants deeds not words. She will expect you to back up your promises by your actions. That really is a stretch, Gemini.
How to Attract a Gemini Man as a Cancer Woman:
The Queen of Beguiles meets the King of Wiles. What we have here is a summit meeting of ploys and conniving. If this fascinating creature has caught your eye, Cancer, you will have to use all your feminine wiles to attract and keep him. By all means, play hard to get. Curb all tendencies to wait by the phone or to complain that he didn’t call you back fast enough. I know it’s hard, but you can do it. The best thing you have going for you is your zany sense of humor and the natural skills that go along with being a Cancer: cooking, nurturing, and home-making. Even a Gemini spins out from time-to-time and needs a cushy pad or lap in which to crash.
Degree of Romance:
Cancer, be prepared to be swept off your feet. If he wants you, there is no one more romantic than a Gemini man. The trouble comes when it’s time to back it up. But let me warn you if this is your first encounter with the Gemini species that you will probably hear the most beautiful words you’ve ever heard spoken and it will be hard to resist believing them. Try to reserve your judgment.
Degree of Passion:
If Gemini wants something and that something requires passion, he will produce it. He is a master of disguises, a wizard. Beware of Siegfried’s Tarn — now you see him, now you don’t. After all, he is ruled by Mercury and no one can hold quicksilver in their hands — or their claws, dear Cancer.
Degree of Friendship:
Cancer looks for affection more than friendship, and being sheltered more than sheltering. Gemini believes in high exposure, risk-taking, and living on the edge. These two would certainly never be friends, though they might be lovers for a while.
Degree of Marriage:
This combination can work if the Gemini man lets the Cancer female stay at home all the time while he’s out running around doing his thing. This is not to suggest that Gemini is unfaithful, but they need a very long leash to engage in their important social activities and networking. It is typical for a Gemini to “drop by the house occasionally” rather than actually living there. If Cancer wants to revolve her life around him, she will be sorely disappointed. The relationship works if she builds her life around her children, mother, siblings, and other relatives who need more constant companionship than he does. Caveat: Geminis is the sign we vote most likely to leave a woman standing at the altar.
Progression of Relationship:
Gemini is sporadic and inconstant even in courtship. If you pay close attention, you may find that he is texting and emailing regularly because it’s so easy to keep in touch that way. And it gets him off the hook of actually showing up. He may drive you crazy with changes of plan, backing out, and canceling at the last minute. He isn’t doing this to be mean; it’s just his way. He doesn’t understand how upsetting this is to you — and that’s the whole problem right there. In a nutshell. Cancer needs constant reassurance and the physical presence of the beloved to feel loved and cared for. With Gemini, it’s not gonna happen.
Sex:
Gemini tends to make love like they were watching someone else do it. That’s why they like phone sex and text sex so much. It’s sex at an arm’s length. It’s not that Gemini is cold, but there’s an element of detachment in everything they do. He would be just as happy putting a camcorder in your bedroom as actually being there with you. If this doesn’t sound warm and cuddly, get out while you can, because he will never change — and neither will you.
When It’s Over:
It will probably die a thousand deaths before it’s actually over as Cancer clings to Gemini, begging over and over again for what she will never get. There’s a little Rule of Thumb in astrology: “Air tortures water.” Gemini is an air sign. Cancer is a water sign. Life is a comedy to those who think (air sign) and a tragedy to those who feel (water sign). Cancer can really get her heart broken while Gemini keeps waltzing her around the room.