Virgo Man and Pisces Woman Compatibility

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Virgo man and Pisces woman is one of the most challenging combinations in the zodiac.  The attraction can be very strong, but for all the wrong reasons.  As you know, the Virgo-Pisces Axis has to do with mental health and pycho-soma (mind-body) connections.  Further, Virgo is the sign that is associated with order and correctness while Pisces is associated with chaos and Dionysian frenzy of the emotions.  Lastly, there is a tendency in young marriages for men to project all of their emotional issues on to the woman they choose.  Virgo is actually defending against chaos which means he is vulnerable to emotional upset and disorders because nowhere in life is there order except that which is imposed.  Pisces lives in a world of natural chaos and is typically happy there, but if and when a Virgo man who is uptight or one-dimensional (a common characteristic) chooses a Pisces women because she is somewhat out-of-control and drifting in a sea of emotion, they can polarize badly.  A common archetype would be Socrates and his wife Xantippe.  The more rational and logical Socrates became, or tried to become, the crazier and wilder Xantippe became, until she became the epitome of the shrieking, hysterical woman.  Not every Virgo man and Pisces woman will play this out but the name of the game can be “Who’s Got the Mental Illness?”

How to Attract a Pisces Woman as a Virgo Man:

Offer to fix everything you notice is wrong — her car, her budget, her job, her relationship with her mother.  Be a little bit remote but gentlemanly.  Show your natural kindness.  Be very, very, very patient when she is late, loses her way, loses her car keys, doesn’t remember where she parked her car, forgets what day of the week it is … you get my drift.  In return, this lovely lady will be the epitome of romance.  Just handle her tenderly.

How to Attract a Virgo Man as a Pisces Woman:

Well for one thing you can be as helpless and hopeless as you really are.  It also helps to have a desperate problem — even a life-threatening one — such as a fatal illness.  Think of the opera La Boheme.  Of course I’m exaggerating to make a point.  The Virgo man will make you think that he wants everything to be perfect but what he really wants is something he can fix. He is gallant and old-fashioned and romantic to the core.  Play your cards accordingly.    Virgos do have a thing about chastity; mostly their own, so of course they’re attracted to people who don’t have any.  Liz Greene pegged it — “reforming the whore” — so you might want to consider assuming this vice if you have it not.  Really, Pisces, we all know that you’re in love with everybody and in this relationship it works to be yourself.

Degree of Romance:

There is a great deal of romance here but it’s hard to keep it on the up-and-up.  For example, it is romantic to yearn for someone impossible to have.  It is romantic to want to heal someone who is desperately ill.  It is romantic to benefit someone whose life has spiraled out-of-control.  But this is perhaps not the best use of the energy.  I recommend that the couple in this combination try very hard to always take off their rose-colored glasses and see what is really going on … under the guise of romance.

Degree of Passion:

This relationship can get really out of control, which might look like passion, but is more like a Night on Bald Mountain.  Many a Wagnerian opera comes to mind.  At the end of a Verdi there may be bodies all over, but that’s a whole lot better than souls.

Degree of Friendship:

Friendship?  Spending a day with these two is like going to Whitecastle with Harold and Kumar.  They may be friends because they are the only people who can understand each other.  Weirdness abounds.

Degree of Marriage:

Well, opposites attract.  If they do marry, Pisces will be able to be a clinging vine to a resolute Virgo who helps her with everything.  I’m not sure this healthy.

Progression of Relationship:

It gets worse.  Like evolution, this begins at the bottom of the sea and then something washes up on the shore, but really … should fish grow legs?

Sex:

Think about it.

When It’s Over:

This is one of the hardest relationships there is to disentangle.  There will be endless charges and discharges, both people playing victim, both focusing on all the wrong issues, both procrastinators, deniers, and avoiders.  The unwinding of the relationship will probably last longer than the relationship itself, but oh the agony and the ecstasy.

Our Rating:    f~g <> f-g = o(g)