Cancer Man and Scorpio Woman Compatibility
Famous Cancer-Scorpio Couples:
Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson, Ernest Hemingway and Hadley Richardson, Harrison Ford and Calista Flockhart, George and Laura Bush.
This can be a really wonderful pairing as it tends to bring out the best in both. I really believe the water signs should stick together! Gentle, nurturing Cancer defangs the Scorpion monster while her Dragon Lady Persona acts as his psychic Body Shield. Scorpio women are a pure and powerful source of energy for a Cancer man. He of all men brings out the maternal in her whilst his serene moonlight energy calms her tumultuous storms at sea. Together they can be invincible with a very high level of trust. Together they tend to seek intimacy rather than power.
How to Attract a Cancer Man as a Scorpio Woman:
Put out a sonar distress signal. “Deep damsel in distress. Dive. Dive. Dive.” No one knows vibes like a Scorpio so send out some of your own on the invisible plane. Draw him to you.
How to Attract a Scorpio Woman as a Cancer Man: Meet her eyes then stare serenely off into the distance. Then do it again. Be your innocent little Cancer self. She’s the Seductress of the Century. Act insecure and uncertain til the shark starts circling your waters.
Degree of Romance:
There is enough here to make the whole world a beautiful place. All the world loves these two lovers.
Degree of Passion: Sooner or later Scorpio goes into an unregulated descent, taking you with her. Think of all those gorgeous Bourne and Bond water scenes. It’s a baptism and rebirth.
Degree of Friendship:
Invincible bond of intimacy and trust.
Degree of Marriage:
They make a terrific team and especially caring parents. They handle money well together. No one ever strays from this arrangement.
Progression of Relationship:
Scorpio learns to relax and trust again, cradled in Cancer’s loving arms. Where they go and what they do is way secondary to what they say to one another that would amaze the other ten signs.
Sex:
These two approach the ecstasy of the divine as they use sex for holy communion.
When It’s Over:
Don’t let it end. You’ll never love this way again. There is nothing that can’t be forgiven.
I’m finding ur blog very insightful but I’m having trouble really taking it to heart. I’m a Scorpio woman currently dealing with a Cancer and my ex is a Pisces. U gave both relationships a 10/10, but is it realistic? I think it varies depending on life experiences…my ex has never been in a relationship before me and it definitely showed. He eventually gave in to his true feelings but that was after 4 1/2 yrs in…we’re not together anymore because he got a bigger head then usual about himself and I couldn’t take it anymore. U figure after 5 1/2 yrs he should know exactly what he wants, who he is, and what I mean to him. My question is…if I let this Cancer in and I fall like I kno I did with my ex, will we ever make it?!? Rhetorical question of course lol
Ur r accurate about the Pisces thou…definitely won’t get over each other.
true abt the pisces… its never the same with anyone else… but its very hard with them.. as you have to keep pushing and keep the relationship going.. sometime you really wonder if he loves you.. but scorp compatibility with cancer is great too.. in fact my best friend is a cancer.. and i cant imagine my life without her
Yes, it seems the three wa ter signs, Cancer, Scorpio and Pisces should stick together.
I’m a Scorpio woman living with a Cancer man. He is my knight in shining armor…he calms me when and helps me put things in perspective…we seemed to have a perfect union…but lately I feel something is missing …I am also attracted to a Virgo man. I don’t really want to hurt my Cancer man but I want to have fun with the Virgo guy…so complicated…argghhh
wow, i love the way you write it
nancy, mind if i guess your sign?
i think youre a scorpio
2nd guess aries
if you were a scorpio woman. which way do you think you would better go? cancer or pisces? both say 10.10
I have Scorpio Rising/ Good guess. Thanks for the compliment.
I totally agree with what you said about Scorpio-Cancer relationship in this article as personally the BEST relationship (most compatible that made/makes me happy every day) I ever had and have was/ is with a Cancer man. During our growing-up, we met so many people and we dated many time (likely) 😛 and in the past, the best I had was with a Cancer and now, the best I have is still with a Cancer. He spoils me pampers me in the exact way I crave for and beyond, a lot of passion and affection, incredible fireworks in the bedroom, even after 5 yrs, every time I see him I can still feel the butterfly inside me, and every time we are together, it’s still like the honeymoon with full-force passion. Just unbelievable. Match made in heaven for sure. He’s inspiring, encouraging, loving and caring, loves my intense passion and enjoys to sink into it with me. I can be completely myself when I am with him in every way. (With another Cancer I used to be with before that it was similar, only because I moved to another country we had to part.)
Anyway, just one line – it can’t be better than that – Scorpio and Cancer is a match made in heaven! 😀 (may I add that actually I also had pretty successful relationship (although couldn’t work out for other reasons besides compatibility) with Scorpio male as well? On my list – top is Cancer, second is Scorpio. The worse is Aquarius.
THAT IS AMAZING! Do you have any idea how accurate this is? It is SO true that I have NEVER loved ANYONE more than the Cancer I am dating.
I’d say THE ABSOLUTE BEST OUT OF THE ENTIRE ZODIAC is ScorpioXCancer!!!
The worst would be Scorpio X Libra -.-”
For instance, my parents!
My mother’s a Libra, my dad’s a Scorpio!
(Heheh I’m a Scorpio)
…AND THEY DIVORCED!!!
…And yet, she married another Scorpio -.-”
…And they divorced.
Hopefully, she’s learned her lesson here.
i had a cancer boyfriend that cheated on me a lot. we were together for a long time and tried to make it work. you are right that i’ll never love like that again. we saved each other from the world. he was my baby. the sex will never be the same with anyone as long as i live. i wish it had worked but we drove each other mad in the end.
right now im dating a cancer man and i worried about scopion womans comment…we too struggle at times but how do i avoid from driving each other crazy at the end??
Cancer: J’ai connu une femme scorpion depuis un peu plus de ans,elle eu des difficultés pour me rejoindre, je crois même que nous aurions un amour sans fin, d’aller jusqu’à la communion- aidez-moi, mes salutations distinguées.
cancer is naturally emotionally attracted to the scorpion will love him more.
I’m a :Cancer, and I like your photo…. are you available? 🙂
I dated a cancer man for 6 months. We had so much fun together BUT truth is, he never really took things seriously. After we broke up, I found out he had been cheating on me, with another SCORPIO woman! I forgave him but never forgot what he did to me. I’m currently in a relationship with a gemini man. We all know geminis & scorpios are NOT compatible BUT It’s been the most wonderful relationship I’ve ever had <3
I am a scorpio who was married to a cancer man. Everyone said it was a match made in heaven.
I must admit that I gave him all the love I could, but he was an absolute CHEATER, I couldn’t be with someone who was so loose with his body. I am married to a Leo Man now and he is so romantic and loyal, most of all.
I am entering a courtship w/ a cancer man…he pays such sweet compliments….i had a cancer man before, he was immature and unmotivated abt life….if he would’ve been driven and mature…he would have been perfect. This one is on the right path….so far 🙂
I love all water signs, but I’m a suspect, since my mother’s Cancer, my father’s Pisces and myself a Scorpio…the only “trouble” that exists it’s my brother been a fire sign: Aries. But we all get along well. My best friend is a Cancer, they’re awesome!
BTW, love you site…I’m definitely telling people about it!;)
I am a Cancer man, and was in Love with a Scorpio woman, years ago. And this description was true. I STILL crave that intensity, to this day! She has sadly moved on, and started a family, but we failed at the same place most did, I BECAME COMFORTABLE. She was hungrir for life, I just love having her in it. I was young, and didn’t know what I fully wanted from myself. This post bought MANY memories.
I am a scorpion women who just started dating a cancer male. We have been friends for years and just started taking it the next level. I have always had a jealous streak with other men, but with him I find I do feel very secure. The only fault I can find is that he is very quiet and doesn’t always say what is on his mind and that drives me nuts….
As a cancer male I have a very soft spot in my heart for this as the best relationship I ever had was with a Scorpio woman. It was like nothing I had ever experienced before and more.
From an emotional stanpoint, Scorpio/Cancer are on par but it was all nonverbal. We had deep feelings for each other but could never really express it verbally. That was one of our many quirks, along with our falling outs. Scorpio is a proponent for revenge and as a Cancer I turn cold as soon as someone crosses me. These quirks can be easily handled if both of the parties are mature. I say this from experience, being both young and stupid we ended up crossing each other, lost our friendship and I haven’t spoken to her in 3-4 years. Still hurts me to this day.
The phyiscal aspect of this relationship is what I really miss. It was really, and I mean REALLY, awesome. I absolutely love the intensity of a Scorpio woman. And I absolutely adore the possessive/jealous nature of a Scorpio as I’m that way to the extreme. We were both extremely faithful to each when we were together.
This is an amazing relationship. Don’t ever let it end.
I’m currently seeing a Cancer man but I find that my jealousy towards him and other women controls me, we aren’t together just yet but he flirts with other women and even tells me who he thinks is hot. I like him a lot but I feel like I won’t be enough for him and I wanna be with him but I can’t stand the thought of him with other women, I don’t understand what i’m feeling. Someone help me please!!!!!!!!!!
very true im scorpio and my man is cancer and i swear he is the most wonderful person ever…we get along well together…and we both are crazy lovers…
Is cancer man and scorpio woman better match than cancer man and pisces woman????
its so accurate.. i am a scorpion lady and have been married to a cancer man. infact we are too compatible, unfortunately, things have not been going very well but in the end we still love eachother and cant get over one another. we are imperfectly perfect 🙂 and no man can woo me like him.
To:hailtothecrab
Wow….what you wrote about you & your ex Scorpio woman almost is identical to my 1st Cancer husband & my Scorpion self! We had 8 years together, I was young….We have 2 beautiful daughters. But by leaving him, I hurt him so bad that he wouldn’t take me back. I was devastated & depressed for awhile. I since have moved on & am re-married to my Libra man. I have 13 years with him. I can’t really compare them to eachother, since they are so complete opposites of eachother. It’s just so very sad…I would have at least tried to be friends with my ex Cancer but he was too hurt then & seems to be too hurt now! && that was 15 years ago. Why wont he get over me? He’s re-married to a Libra woman…. I know I was way more exciting than she is!
Alison:
I’m happy to see my post resonated with you. I’m seeing a trend here..
My advice – the both of you need to ditch the libras and reunite! All kidding aside, I can safely say that your ex Cancer still feels for you deep down under his shell. He’s obviously not over you and rightfully so as he’s with a libra woman. I can safely say that he still thinks about you and fondly recounts the passionate/intense moments you two shared. This is a characteristic that plagues all Cancers, and it’s hard for us to deal with most of the time.
As a Cancer man, I can say that it’s mostly hard for me to be friends with exes that I still have feelings towards, and this is especially true regarding Scorpio. I know I was devastated when my ex moved onwards. It was such a powerful relationship that I couldn’t completely erase her memory; it has been 4 years and I honestly don’t know if I can really love again. I’ve met and been with many women of different signs but none compare to the intense feelings I felt for Scorpio. I still think about her everyday and I’d be lying if I said it was involutary.
At any rate, he’ll probably come around eventually. If he’s anything like me, he’ll probably wont be happy until he finds himself another Scorpion. I think only then, when he’s truly happy, he’ll come around.
Best of luck!
Where to start. . . Hmmm well i am a cancer male and i have been on a quest for a scorpio woman’s love for about 4 years. And no luck !? Where are all the scorpio women at? Lol from my spiritual, astronomical, metaphysical and occult studies i have learned that i am more than equiped to make my one and only scorpio happy. But where is she? Recently i did make a conection with such an illusive and wonderful spirit. We have recently become very close friends. The bond was instantanious, dynamic, mysteriously magical, and so far fullfilling. What more can a hopeless romantic ask for? And this is coming from a bass playing, metal loving anarchist. Haha. Theese women just know how to strum our heart strings. The only thing restraining me from advancing our friendship to th mystical love affair is the fact that she is currently in a relationship with a sagittarius. Im not assuming i would be the better lover or that they would break up but nothing is impossible. My only ?. Should i hang around or move on? Thanx
I am like your scorpio female, in a relationship but friends with a cancer man. I too feel a very strong connection to him, did since we fist met, and we became friends pretty effortlessly lke you describe. Us scorpios don’t connect like this with people easily, so when we do, we take note. Chances are your scorpio female is feeling strong feelings for you, too. My cancer male told me how he felt and I seriously considered leaving my current (serious) relationship for him. I think the reason I didn’t is because he kind of disappeard (stopped trying to make contact with me). I’m not sure if this is because he thinks it’s just easier not to talk, or if he really just isn’t into it. If you want her, you need to make your move–don’t get wait for something to happen. Why do cancer men like scorpio women so much, anyway?
Cancer men like scorpio women so much because you gals are so very, very different in a good way from other women we meet. Your differences from other women is why we like you so much. Its so very obvious when we meet you that you gals are very different and unique. That is, your intensity of emotions (we can feel it radiating off you even without you speaking), your confidence / inner strength, your quietness, the way you open up to us more than to others, your intense scorpio stare that makes us quake in our boots, the way you sometimes try to possess us, your sexiness (it radiates off you in endless waves) and for me, even the way you gals have a temper over what I consider are petty things. Most of all when you really like us, those super intense feelings we sense you have for us, which is of course all non-verbal but we sense it all the same. We like you because you’re different. Even some of the stuff you might think we wouldn’t like, we like those things too.
I absolutly love this article. Makes me remember how much my Cancer man and I work. Especially when I get confused about my feelings… My ex is a Scorpio and I thought we didnt work all that well so when he broke up with me, I gave up all hope with it ever working and I found my Cancer. My ex and I are still close friends and he has a Gemini woman. Their supposedly not suppose to be a great relationship but he is very happy and I want to be happy for him ( I mean I am ) but my jealousy kicked in the other night over them. I feel awful about it and I really do love my Cancer man and I dont want to hurt him AT ALL but I dont know what my jealousy means. Do I just want what I dont have? Because I never had these feelings when he wasnt with her.. I dont want to mess anything up with my Cancer man so Im trying to ignore the feelings. Should I tell him how Ive been feeling? He does seem to notice a difference in me but I feel myself getting.. Distant?.. from him and I dont like it one bit but I dont know what to do. Not only am I worried about that but also with other comments on here of cheating Cancer men. In August, me and my Cancer man decided to take time apart when he went away but we talked as much as we could and he still told me he loved me and of course I believed him because I would never doubt his feelings. Anyway, one of his friends lived in the same town and she (Pisces woman) and him had been friends for the last two years. They hung out a few times and one night she stayed with him. He told me everything that happened and she even told me they didnt sleep together and I believe them both but it still hurts that all that time he was still “loving” me he was building a relationship with someone else. And the biggest thing is that he didnt tell me until a couple months ago. We werent technically together but we still talked in some way almost everyday. We are together and good in that area now but I get worried sometimes that hes going to find someone else and cheat or just leave. Thats such a scary feeling and I think the whole reason why I dont want to give in to my feelings for my ex Scorpio man is because I dont want my Cancer man to feel that way. He is so sensitive and thats one of the very many things about him that I adore.. I dont wanna break him because it would break me just as much if not more. Please any advice..? Should I not worry about my Cancer man? Do I need to get more distance from Scorpio man to not feel distant towards my Cancer man..?
Does your scorpio ex feel the same about you? You said he seems really happy with his new girlfriend? I think it’s natural to feel jealous when an ex is with someone new, even if you’re not a scorpio. I’m a scorpio female dating a scorpio man (for 8 years) and I know what you mean about feeling like things don’t work sometimes. I’m not sure scorpio men find our traits as endearing as “cancer boy” says cancer men do, so I would take that into consideration! My scorpio man definitely doesn’t appreciate my stubborness, or the fact that I don’t just take his crap and call him out when he’s being an ass (as scorpio men can be).
Think about your relationship with your scorpio ex; are you happier now than you were then? Does your cancer man make you feel like you are the best you? I think us scorpios tend to overthink EVERYTHING and I know I wish I could turn my brain off a lot.
I wouldn’t tell your cancer about your feelings for your ex, since it’ll probably just hurt him. However, I would talk to him about what you both want from your relationship. I think us water signs tend to read into things and rely on our emotions so much that we really need to TALK to each other. Your cancer man can most definitely sense your distance and he probably needs reassurance as well.
Scorpios have a magnetic bond to each other, but don’t let that pull make you throw away something good. Maybe make a diagram of all the things that are important to you in a partner and see which more traits each has? Maybe a rational exercise like this can help you gain perspective?
Good luck!
No I dont think he feels the same anymore. I mean he says ” You cant turn love off. ” That he still loves me but I dont believe thats so.
And when I think about it.. I am actually happier than I was when I was with him. My Cancer man is probably the best I could ever ask for:) He loves my jeaousy towards him and my possessiveness.. The way I have to know everything.. He loves me for me! And its amazing and very hard to find a guy that practically cries when he is afraid your gonna leave because of some mistake he made.
Your right betty we Scorpios do tend to overthink things wayyyy too much.
Im going to try that diagram/exercise of yours:) I dont think its really nessecary but I like the thought of being for sure. Thanks for everything!!
But still one problem. Do you really think my Cancer man will ever actually cheat..? What do you think or anybody else think givin by what happened with the Pisces woman?
Glad I could help! 🙂
I’m not sure what makes men cheat, but for me I think I’d only leave my current partner if we no longer had a strong emotional/physical connection and I met someone I connected with on a stronger level. Personally I would never cheat on a partner, but things happen and I know it happens a lot. It seems like Cancers are wired a lot like us, so I would think that as long as he feels a strong connection to you, you have nothing to worry about. 🙂 But, like I said, I’m not a man, so I don’t really know how their brains work. Cancer men care to comment?
Happy new Year to all n gud luck for coming future…….. 🙂
I’m a cancer sun male and cheating is the #1 thing I frown upon in relationships – my theory is to just end the relationship if there’s someone else seriously coming into the picture.
But here’s some food for thought. I’m no expert in astrology but I think some of this might depend on the Venus sign of your cancer male. Mine is in Virgo so when it comes to relationshipsm I’m a little picky but devoted to serving my partner, thus I’m less likely to cheat. If he has one in say, Sagittarius, it may be a completely different ball game.
So, ScorpioInLoveWithCancer!!, was the sex better with the Scorpio man or the Cancer man? Why?
I never had sex with Scorpio honestly but we did enough and afterwards it was kind of awkward but it got better in time.. With Cancer, it is magical:) Sometimes its just for fun which we both love and it gets kind of hardcore ;D But most of the time its straight up love making and the connection is so powerful.
Sex with my Scorpio man is really great (I’m a scorp. female), but I’ve never been with a Cancer, so I can’t really compare.
Here’s a question for Cancer guys (I’m a Scorp. woman):
I know this cancer guy (mid-twenties) and we were always friendly with each other but didn’t really talk that much (we worked together). When he left our place of work for a new job, he told me that he had a thing for me and basically asked me out. I have a boyfriend, so I obviously had to decline. I told him that I always thought he seemed really nice and would like to be friends (I have a lot of guy friends, so it seemed normal to me). He said he wanted to be friends too and we kept in touch for a while, e-mailing and whatnot. We had a lot of good conversations and I felt like we were getting to be friends, but then he just disappeared and stopped making an effort to connect with me.
Now, my question is why he would do this? I felt like we could have had a good friendship because we had a lot in common and it seemed pretty effortless to be friends. What is his deal? Is it really as simple as he is only interested in maintaining relationships with girls he can be intimate with?
Hi Lola. I’m a cancer male in my 30’s. The reason your cancer male friend disappeared unexpectedly is probably because he has strong feelings for you, and its hard for him to stay just friends with you becacuse of it. Maybe at the beginning he thought he could handle being just your friend, but later realized he couldn’t, or maybe in getting to know you more as a friend his feelings for you grew more. To the point where it was too hard for him to be just “friends”, so he ended the friendship to protect his feelings. Since he’s in his 20’s, he’ll probably be too embarassed to admit this to you, even if you confront him on it, but this would be my guess on his behavior.
@ cancer boy i think you maybe right ……… 😉
Thanks, Cancer Boy. That helps give me some insight into what’s going on in his head. It’s confusing though that liking someone would make him pull away when most people would try to get closer, but I guess I get it. It’s sad though. 🙁
thank u cancer boy a cancer boy so loves me
Ok, so my cancer male friend got in touch with me again today after months of silence, but he acted very differently toward me. He used to be sweet and caring, but this time he seemed kind of like an asshole. He even told me he was going to go hit on random girls, which I could care less about, but thought it was a weird thing to tell a female “friend” you haven’t talked to in a long time. Basically, it seemed like he was trying to make himself out to be this macho guy who is kind of a pimp? WTF? Total personality 180. I’m starting to wonder if I ever really knew the real him?
Lola, in a nutshell that was all an act.
This was all a defense mechanism. He still has feelings for you and wants to come off as a new, confident person. One of the things that plagues us is that we are very self-conscious and don’t like to feel or look “inferior” (if that makes any sense). This kind of explains why he was trying to make it look to you like he’s moved on and has girls after him left and right. I can almost guarantee you that scenario is not the case. As terrible as it sounds, he’s just trying to look strong and to possibly even make you jealous because deep down inside, he still longs for you. Since you rejected him and he still has feelings, he feels humiliated and probably even fears that you talk negatively about him with your friends. I know that sounds insane, but that’s how our type-a minds work.
I think it’s safe to say that a Cancer man-Scorpio woman pairing is one of the most intense relationships of the zodiac. All of us born under water signs (Cancer, Scorpio, Pieces) are renowned for our capacity to feel the deepest of love. If one of us has feelings, and the other only feels the “friend vibe” (aka no physical attraction) then this combination is doomed. I hate to be bleak, but it is what it is. The only way a Cancer man and a Scorpio woman can be platonic friends is if there is completely no physical attraction between any the two.
Also, unlike Pieces and Scorpio, Cancer men are the most sensitive of the zodiac. When we are faced with rejection, it’s a catastrophic matter for us – we don’t take it too well. We quickly rebuild our shell to be harder than before – hence the defense mechanisms. However, despite the armor, our insides still remain damaged until we fall in love again. Even if we meet other women it’s a long, drawn-out process to get you out of our thoughts. Some of us may never even heal from the damage.
I think your Cancer friend will return to himself once he meets another woman that matches to your caliber. Only then will he be able to negate the deep feelings/attraction he has for you.
Best of luck!
htc
Wow, thank you, Hail to the Crab! You certainly have a lot of insight into the minds of other Cancer men!
I am usually pretty perceptive, so I thought he might be putting on some kind of an act, but I wasn’t sure. I’ve never been friends with a Cancer man before (or dated one), so I don’t have much experience dealing with this kind of mind game.
It makes me feel really bad to think that I hurt him like that. 🙁 I actually was really attracted to him physically and would have gone out with him if I wasn’t already in love with my boyfriend (another Scorpio). I know rejection is rejection though, and I can understand why he’d feel humiliated or whatever.
So I guess my question is this: what should I do? Should I just write off the friendship? I guess two people who are sexually attracted to each other would probably have a hard time being “just friends” anyway, which was kind of a concern of mine from the beginning.
It just kills me to think I damaged him in some way though, as that was NEVER my intention. I guess I didn’t think his feelings for me were much deeper than he thought I was attractive. Is there anything I can say or do to make it better?
Despite his mind games, I still think of him as one of the nicest men I’ve met and I relish the instant connection we had, as I haven’t felt that with many other people, let alone men, I’ve met in my life.
Thanks for any thoughts you may have on the matter!
Lola, I think it’s probably best to just let him go if he keeps this act up. To minimize the hurt on his end it’s best to just be cordial with him: not talk every day, send few if any emails, etc.
As Cancer Boy said upthread when you kept in touch with him his feelings most likely grew stronger. As silly as it sounds, I developed really deep feelings for my ex-girlfriend, a Scorpio, through day-to-day instant messaging learning about her life, her passions, etc. The more a Cancer knows about your life, the more he’s drawn to you. Complement that with a physical attraction and all bets are off.
If anything, you should not feel responsible or horrible for his pain. He’s just hurt from the situation and probably feels dumb for letting himself become deeply attracted to a woman in a committed relationship. Also, I’m not sure if you revealed to him that you had a boyfriend early on in the friendship but if you didn’t, it probably would’ve helped to have done so in order to not attract him further.
At the end of the day, it may be a little bit easier for you two to be cordial in that you two weren’t in a serious relationship. When my Scorpio ex moved on (I was in my early 20s) it was painful to the point where we couldn’t really be cordial towards each other. After some maturity (now in my mid-20s), I figured that I’d rather be cordial towards than estranged from someone who was a big part of my life. It’s pretty hard though, because I’d be lying if I said that I didn’t want her back. That’s how it goes and it’s a bit draining. Cancer-Scorpio is a heavenly combo when the two ride off into the sunset but an absolute mess when breakups are involved.
I hope everything goes okay.
htc
Thanks, HTC. That is helpful advice.
If it makes any difference, I did tell him I had a boyfriend at the very beginning of our friendship. I wasn’t dramatic about it or anything, just mentioned my boyfriend a few times in conversation. My cancer friend never asked any questions about him and didn’t seem to want to hear about him, so I didn’t give him any details about our relationship (like that we’ve been together for a long time and live together–maybe I should have).
I hate to think that he thinks of me as some kind of tease. Maybe it was wrong of me to try to make a friendship with him knowing he was attracted to me. Like I said before, I just had no idea he had real feelings for me, beyond physical attraction. I didn’t even know that he was interested in me while we were working together until he told me. Ugh, I feel badly about the whole thing now.
I will just keep being nice, but not make any extra effort to stay in touch.
Thanks again for the advice, I really appreciate it!
How can you tell if a Cancer guy likes you? Like, is interested in you to date, not just as a friend?
Can someone please give me some insight on what i should do about my this Cancer guy I had been involved with for months, I miss him soooo much. In December we got into this really huge argument about some girls on facebook because I didn’t like the fact that they were calling him baby when i saw it (first time seeing stuff like this) I texted him at like 12 midnight and told him to delete my number, but then later asked who the girls were (one was his ex gf, she’s an Aquarius) and he was telling me that I was being petty about females on fb and just because they’re posting stuff like that it doesn’t even really matter either way because we’re not in a relationship anyway; After he said that to me I texted back and said you don’t have to explain anything to me so have a nice life and he was laughing and was like why would I have to explain anything to you, we’re not together!!!!!!!!! When he said that I was extremely hurt even though I knew that we weren’t but we did do A LOT of things together (eating out, spending the night with each other, grocery shopping together, taking his dog for walks) we just didnt have that title, so I just texted back and said bye and he texted me and said I’ve got about ten girls on there calling me baby, let’s see I can’t get some more. The day after this happened my grandaddy passed away from lung cancer (he was in the hospital really sick for abt two weeks and he knew this) so I was already EXTREMELY stressed out. I know I probably shouldn’t have done this but I texted him sometime later in that day and told him that he passed, he didn’t even text back! I understand he was upset with me but goodness. I tried abt a week and a half later to apologize to him (I felt as though I overreacted seeing as though we weren’t together anyway so it wasn’t my place), and he just blew me off AGAIN. I was so hurt because he rejected me twice so I just gave up trying and decided it’s just best to move on, I went out with my friends, spent more time with my family and talked to other guys. yes it worked for about a week, but only a week, it’s been two months since the argument and almost two months since I tried apologizing to him, I’ve cried myself to sleep ever since it all happened and he’s ALWAYS on my mind. I just can’t see myself with anyone else. I want to give it another try and tell him how sorry I am and that I miss him soooo much but i’m so scared of rejection, and I know that if he rejects me again i’ll be more than hurt, i’ll be devasted. Why did he say such hurtful things? Someone please help me, should I call him or just move on.
P.S. All those girls have boyfriends now.
hmmm girl i m not having a bf, but can giv u a sincere advise 😉 never ever be scare of rejection, be urself. Gud 4 u …….. best partner is who doesn’t change u, accept u what u r 🙂 in ur case whatever u r telling is ur words n thinking n according to that the boy sounds very rude……..but maybe the boy has something else going on !!!!!
Okay, update on the situation–see previous threads: so after my cancer male friend acted like a jerk to me, we didn’t talk for about a week. Then he reached out and was really sweet and friendly and made a lot of effort to talk to me every day. After about a week or so of this, he disappeared again and seemed distant the last time we talked (a few days ago). I am kind of confused what is going on here. It’s like he wants to be friends, then he doesn’t, then he does and then he doesn’t again?
HTC and Cancer Boy both said his previous behavior is probably because he still has feelings for me, so is that what is going on here? I am just treating him like I do any of my friends, so it’s not like I’m flirting or anything. I’ve never had a male friend be so elusive, so I’m not sure what to do?
….Lola I would move on that is if you haven’t already 😉 i mean you have a life of your own and why hold your breath for someone mean and unkind?! do you really want someone like that in your life even if he were to have feelings for you? history has a way of repeating itself dearie. of course nothing wrong in exchanging sweet nothings. that’s why they’re called that becoz they are ……NOTHING!! lol! i got rid of my meanie crab and feeling so much better now. my current is a taurus guy n we get along v well.
Lola that was kind of an extension of I was talking about in my previous post. My guess is that he resumed contact to try to get with you and realized, once again, that you still weren’t going to give up your relationship. It would explain why he was sweet and put in the effort and then drew away quickly when you just treated him like any other friend. This is what an immature (usually teenage) crab does, which honestly is kind of alarming behavior for someone in their mid-20s. A more mature crab usually grieves rejection on his own for some time, accepts it as it is, and then moves on completely – or at least makes it seem like he’s moved forward. A more mature crab (and person overall) would be completely over the game playing and will reciprocate friendliness without a hidden agenda.
I would reccomend continuing friendly contact with him (just don’t initiate it) and if he becomes distant, it’s not the end of the world. Even as a Cancer, I’ll say that you don’t need someone as immature that in your life. Though I will say that I think that you may still have somewhat of an attraction to him stemming from the attraction you had when you first met him, otherwise the loss of him as a colleague/friend wouldn’t be bothering you so much, which I think this is common in Scorpio women.
I would probably take some time alone assess your attractions/feelings (I think someone upthread reccomended a “feelings map” for someone else) and I’m positive after completely thinking it over you’ll find that you love your Scorpio and that it’s better to just let Cancer become distant and it may even be best to exclude him from your life if he keeps his act up. Maybe that will give him the epiphany he needs.
Thank you for your great insight once again, HTC! You are completely right that he is behaving like a total teenager! I was just thinking the other day how it reminds me of some high school drama, haha.
I honestly don’t know why I care so much. I think you are right though that I let my initial attraction/connection to him distort how I should feel about how he is acting. In a normal situation I wouldn’t give someone who plays these kinds of games the time of day, male or female, so I should just write off the friendship here, it seems like he can’t handle it anyway. I’ve never been a game player and I certainly am not going to play this cat and mouse game with him.
Thanks for the perspective, it helped me get my head out of the clouds and see him/the friendship for what he/it actually is.
im a 15 year old guy and i think there is a difference between the three. cute is like adorable or like cute in a way of a kid. pretty is natural beauty pretty without make up and is a ten without having to get ready and inner beauty. hot is sexy like jaw dropping attrcative but if its just hot then hes prolly just into u for ur body… guys are like that haha i try not to be tho. i call my girlfriend all three shes sooo attractive not just her body though shes smart and funny and sweet and a good person and beautiful and im so in love. shes my world and shes all of the above to me, choosing which one is better to be called is something you can decide on your own
i am 17 years old. i am scorpio and my ex bf is a cancer. we was together for 10 months. we broke up due to the fact he doesnt show he cares about me when i always asked him. whenever i will cry when he get into a argument he will just hung up and he is tired then the next day in school he wouldnt ask if i am ok. i got pissed at him and didnt give him his ipod back until i felt back and gave it back. i begged the day he wrote me a break up email for it not to be over. we had remained friends but each time we will hang out we will still kiss and be very attracted to each other. we didnt have sex or anything cuz we are virgins and waiting until we get married. we get into very heated arguments. i feel like im always to one who reachs out to talk again. its been 5 months since we had broken up. i dont wanna wait but something tells me to stay and hold on. we are each other first loves. i know he really loves me and cares about me. he wrote me 100 things he loves about me. i feel like the past things that i have done to him wouldnt be fixed i have slapped him twice he always throws it in my facee. but when he choked me to the point i couldnt breathe. i dont bring up. yesterday we had a real bad argument. he can be very selfish only worry about himself instead of me. i helped with so much like school i made him breakfast every morning when he had no lunch in schuelde at school, i gave him money when he had none. i made him dinner when he had noo food at home. i always took care of him. i am the only one in his life he inspires him to do good things. i feel like i am taken for granted. he knows i am always gonna be there for him im sick of that i want him to be scared to lose me. i feel like i mean nothing to him. i never feel loved by him. i dont know understand how he acts like he dont care and soo selfish. he is sweet at times. i just love too much to let go. he finds me beautiful i am insecure person. he knows everything about me. he is my best friend. we only trust each other. i dont know what to do honestlyy. i keep telling him to change he doesnt do it. i need help
Im a cancerian male dealing with a scorpio female i dont love her like i use to i remember we talked alot she was the first girl i fell in love with it seem that she made me feel ok to revail my true form of myself usually im funny a show off and egotistical on the outside but deep down i care about people im humble a im geuine and beutiful. i will always love this girl she is always dear to me anything that i thought that was unattractive about me really turned her on she was like the perfect girl for me she made me do stuff i never thought i do she was the first girl i ever drop down on my knees and beg to, i never even tried phone sex until she came along and when the skies were grey she cleared them out for me
we fussed alot but it seem like every time we got at it we make up and the bond with us got even more stronger everytime i open my heart to her and never done that to any other women before i could not trust nobody but it seems that i can trust her when i first got a glance of her she knock off of my feet as if she was a tornado thats when i knew someday i would fall in love with her
then this other female came in and tore the scorpio and i apart now she dont love me any more i want to be back on her good side again so i can feel the passionate aura in the air
well danny i can tell yu. yu wouldnt get back on her good sign. as a scorpio female i know i wouldnt. she stills loves yu trust me but she dont want to be with someone who wasnt loyal or faithful to her. yu mean alot to her and always will. even if yu get on her good side she will always bring up the pain yu cause time from time. she wouldnt forget but probably forgive. idk im sorry to hear about that good luck.
even if she say she dont care about me she is still thinking about me she is just hidng it or somthing or is she is weary of trusting me again
yepp danny. idk its hard to earn back a scorpios trust. yu gonna need to work hard
the best i can do is talk to her everyday
yea that is the best yu can do. but dont talk to other females cuz its gonna mess up everything.
nobody not even a friend that i dont like
what if she tell you leave her alone
please i need help i just want us to be my bestfriend agian
just take things slow with her. remind of all the good things and times yall had
thank you
she is still quick to say by have i harm her that bad
I’m a Scorpion with a lot of Cancerian in my sign. A LOT. I have formed many lovely relationships with cancers. Whenever I have a bad break-up…I always seem to have a Cancerian sent to me – very soul soothing. Just don’t even need to speak, very intimate and connected, perfect for when I need a big cuddle! I have never had a real long-term relationship with one though…feel that we may be a bit too similar…and there’s not enough to sort of challenge me and help me grow. But I wouldn’t be surprised if I ended up with one. Very sweet stuff.
I’m a Scorpio female and I just got out of a 16-month relationship with a Cancer male just days ago. This is so trueee! I usually have trust issues, but it was different with him. He had such a caring nature and being a Scorpio, I had a short temper, got irritated over the little things pretty easily, and it’s crazy when my jealousy kicks in, so that nature of his pretty much calmed me down. Our relationship was like bestfriends yet we were in a relationship, and I’ve honestly never had that in any of my other relationships. Our bond was different — the good way. I’m a stubborn, suspicious & jealous person, but he brought out the best in me. I hope to find someone I can have a relationship with like what I had with him. *Sigh*
Why did your relationship with the Cancer end?
i am a scorpio woman and i have been seeing my cancer man for the past month… i have read some comments and it seems the worst is to loose ur cancer.. it seems we have this connection that is unreal.. i have a bestie who is a pisces and we fit together also but i am drawn to my cancer.. it’s so new but he is always on my mind and stands up to me which is sweet but when he pushes me the stinger comes out and i gotta get his soft underbelly and put him back off of me. the good thing ab it is that he is a challenge to me even though we have a lot in common… i’m really excited by this cancer bc he is something totally different…
i also have a cancer man as my ex-husband but we never had this connection as my cancer man now… Y is that????
ugh the cancer i am in luv with is in luv with an aries woman..i was waiting for that relationship to burn out so i can get his attention back like i had before she came along..but reading ur compatibility with the two i guess it will never happen so i must now pick up the pieces and move on…we had a very deep friendship and i fell in luv but his feelings werent the same ..i recently found out he and aries were into eachother and it broke my heart.. hes very protective over her and although he and i were close hes obviously closer to her because he wont let me say a word about her but i think he talks about me behind my back to her to make her feel secured that shes his true interest..shes an attention seeker and he gives her so much of it..shes his little secret love, im tired of trying to hold him close to me especially if i believe its a losing battle..im so depressed ..i lost my best friend, but he doesnt want me to leave. he begs me to stay. we are very passionate towards one another and the sex is unimaginable but im just too jealous to remain a friend with benifits ..especially since i thought i was the only one in his life that was this close, its just too hard to bare..im very sad…but i dont think he cares..i think it was just all aabout the sex with this guy with me but with her he wants to settle down and be happy..she brags alot about their friendship and it hurts so bad
i am a scorpio woman with cancer rising…i fell for a cancer man just looking at his picture…that was before i knew he was married…he is much older than me and has been with his wife for years and has grown up children…and i think i was drawn to him also because i had problems at home too- my mother basically rejected me when i was a child and i had to raise myself emotionally and otherwise since i can remember…i had all kinds of problems because of it including low self esteem, emotional defensiveness and emotional detachment so when i saw his photo i had this strong sensation that he was it…i dreamt about us together like scorpios do …i went to see him at a place where he was speaking…he is a bit of a public figure…i felt an enormous connection there (which i think is actually there on some issues at least) and i could feel he felt it too…afterwards i felt totally depressed…i went to see him again at at another place a few days later and gave him a letter, saying not so much that i loved him, but it was obvious from the letter that i felt a strong connection with him…i was hoping he would get in touch… i waited and waited but when no answer came i was left to deal with a deep wound which on top of my childhood depression was a living nightmare…slowly, very slowly, over a period of good couple of years i weaned myself off him…i have to admit too that during that period i used to send him emails about how good it would be if we were together and how wonderful i found him…not psycho stuff although i know it sounds it- i was really careful not to go into the accusing mode although i was dealing with so much i have no idea how i did it…in my emails i was trying to help him too because i knew he was going through a depression too and i know that some of the stuff was spot on…at the same time writing to him helped me to ground my emotions and slowly put things into perspective…i was scared that i would get arrested for harassment but i did it for my own healing too ( at that time i felt too low to have therapy)…sending emails to him made me feel bad because i didn’t want to put him under strain and i was also scared for myself…i must have sent about hundred emails…all i got was silence…no one from his office wrote back to me saying please stop…and he never responded saying we had a connection… i could not make head or tail of it all (this was probably due to lack of emotional awareness and my childhood)…i went to see him for the third time to ground the whole process…when it came to the nitty gritty i was so weighed down by my emotions i only manged a good night and a handshake…it was him who actually did not let go of my hand until i slipped mine out of his…afterwards i felt an enormous warm energy going through my body… emails finished about two years ago and i do not think about him…i have gone online and started dating other men…and then yesterday out of the blue i realised that i still love him and i am now at a total loss at whether i should try to contact him in a more civilised fashion…do we really have some kind of connection? sometimes i feel it is such a shame not to explore this and yet whenever i think about him i fall into wanting to be with him..i would also do it to explore my emotions mostly because i have no clue what i am feeling right now and what i should be doing…i really thought i put this thing to bed two years ago and here it is back again…this scorpio cancer connection has been a real nightmare and yet I would give anything to find my own cancer man who could love me back…
Scorpio woman who is passionately in love..with a Cancer man..and has been for a very very long time..I know in my heart he still loves me..and that he considers the fact knowing I do..regardless of my situation..and what others may say about him. My love for him endureth forever. I hope one day we will reunite and pick up where we left off. This is my wish and I want it to be at OUR command!! Love you GK!! :*
I am with a cancer man for 2 years. During our breakup I met another cancer man at my summer job. And he like me. He knew my whole situation with my ez. We got along. He was there when I cry over my ex. He want to be with me even tho I still love my ex. But I can’t be with him. My ex ask me out. I told the boy to leave me alone. Sometimes I feel bad and wish I was with him. But my ex currently my bf is good we are working it work. I don’t trust him.
This Cancerian guy is my colleague & i probably fell for him at the first sight. When we were introduced, I chose to stay quiet & he’ll distract me during work. That playful kind. There was once where our hands touched, accidentally and its like the time paused, but he retreated. Months passed, and we do get along well. In fact, there was once when he took the blame for me. He laughs at my jokes (but i dont think im even funny). Sometimes I get annoyed easily and he’ll be quick to pick up my mood.
Its just that, I get confused easily, I dont know if he has feelings for me or is he just plain friendly. One moment we act like we’ve known each other forever, and next moment, we ignore each other. Oh, im pulling him in, bit by bit. And I think it’s working cos I achieved 2 goals yesterday ;D Oh well, I’m a Scorpio woman afterall.
I met a cancer man and yes its very wierd bc the moment i saw him i liked him and we didnt even talked to each other at first. Then we stated talking and then I realized that he was a sweet, caring guy i ever met. Unfortunetly he has a girlfriend, but sometimes get the feeling that he likes me a lot by the way he acts and talks to me. This situation is really killing me because idk if in the future we will be together or not. Its been a while now, and even though i’ve met other guys i feel like i dont connect with them as much as i did with the cancer guy. And i swear im not even exaggerating, but i think of him all the time and hes even in my dreams and i know that he likes me too, he just doesnt want to be unfaithful. I just hope that one day i can be with him.
The awkward moment when someone is crying and you’re trying your hardest not to breakdown because you know you love them and the mere fact of losing them brings you tears.
The Cancer man in question is someone that I went to school with almost 20 years ago. He emailed me and then immediately called me when I responded to ask me out. We talked on the phone and texted for over a week before our actual date- he was out of town on vacation. Before our date he was texting me first thing every morning- and called frequently…we went out on Friday night…to a movie and to dinner then back to my place to watch tv and talk. While on the date, he was very sweet, nervous and was constantly holding my hand, putting his arm around me and kissing me… it was wonderful. At home he did the same thing, but once it got late he was up and out of there…he asked when he could see me again and said that he would call the next day- well, he hasn’t called since. He has texted me everyday- and has been very sweet, but has yet to make a move as to seeing me again. I finally told him that I would like to see him again and he said that we would get together this week. I am just very confused. I am a Scorpio and usually in control of relationships, but I am stumped. I can’t read him…I don’t know what to say or do next… I tried the whole ignoring him thing and he just ends up texting me even more…until I give in and talk to him. I am not sure what to do. On a side note, he did tell me that he always wanted to ask me out in school and I was that girl that he always looked at and wished that he could be with…the thing is, if he had asked me out back then- I WOULD have gone… he has always been handsome and very sweet…with just enough of the “bad boy” image to make him exciting. I need to know what to do. Do I pursue him? Do I leave it alone and let him come to me? Everything that I have read about Cancer men has proven true with him… but I don’t want to scare him away at all. I am very loving and we would be the perfect couple if he would just commit a little… I own a business and I am a very busy person so I have to plan…and I won’t be able to just up and drop what I do to see him when he is ready. He also says that he loves when I text him because he thinks that it is very sweet… but I feel like I am doing all the work here! If Cancer men are so loving and caring, why doesn’t he see that he is just not doing much? I also need to know that someone cares about me and wants to be around me…because if not then I need to move on. I am truly crazy about him and I just need some major advice on what to do next….
So I’ve been secretly dating this Scorpio babe. We fucked in a public bathroom, we fucked in her bed room when no on else was there and I pulled out and came on the floor, we fucked in her parents bed room where I pulled out and came on a couch pillow, we fucked multiple times in our hostel room with other people there… We fucked everywhere we could. That girl was amazing.And it was wild. I made her come hard several times, and having a girl that hot enjoy being eaten out by humble you is a pretty neat ego boost. And she was epic at giving bjs.
I wish this was more detailed because yeah first vibes are great connection was there without words. I was attracted, flirting felt easy and comfortable, but the more I got to know this cancer man I’m talking to now the more he seems distant or just childish.
Slowly starting to lose attraction and I think he can feel it too. I like that we can read eachother emotionally but it’s hard for me to verbally dig into those feelings with him.